I told my caregiver Violet today that I loved how she handles it when I tell her I need something done differently. I am so used to getting anger and passive-aggressiveness spat back at me, or defensiveness and hurt feelings clouding caregivers’ responses. But really, it’s simple. It’s just a difference in preferences–I’m not yelling or criticizing or ridiculing–I’m simply managing my care, which I have every right to do. Anyway, Violet and I get along well because we can let the ‘problem’ go then with no lingering dark clouds to fog up our interaction.